'Dora and Boots'!

Ever had/do you have that friend with whom it seems almost anything you can share? The one that as you so much as sneeze it seems they're always there?
Maybe not physically but quite reliably a phone call or message away. The one you just have to give regular updates about your day or simply must talk to after a long tiresome day or week.

Huuuuuuge shout out to the ones you may only talk to a couple times for the month and it feels totally right like you 'never left home'; I cherish such friends. But there are different categories and the ones I'm highlighting are the ones that keep your nose in your cellphone, and,  if you do put it down you're hoping it's them on the other end whenever your phone lights up.

Friends are special. Whether it be via serendipity,  similar classes/course or a common friend's party that brought your worlds together and stuck them with krazy glue (literally😛) there's no denying how unique the concept of friendships are. Family -you didnt choose, some you can barely tolerate- but to open up your heart,mind, fridge and even closet 😄 to another unrelated being must mean something...that person has just got to have rubbed you the right way for you to say at the end of class or that party, "hey dont go,stay". Isn't it amazing?the powers of attraction...of the thousands of people you've met this one has decided he/she is here to stay.

Friends are/should be little mirrors...help you to see youreself...not just booger checks or to tell you if " 'matta' in u eyes"...or if you look fat in your new dress, but should always play some small part in making each other the very best. They should enhance some sector of your being,whether emotionally (I daresay that should be a given), spritually,socially,financially etc. They should be a driving force, the wind beneath your sails, an additional ' I CAN' factor in your life. They should genuinely applaud your accomplishments, laugh (sometimes at you!) when you do something silly but also lovingly correct any error in judgement. If they aren't contributing to any of the above i'm not sure what the point of that 'friendship' is, but I'm open to answers.

But this is what friendship means to me.
Shout out to the friends you've somehow managed to lose along the way...like they fell out of a back pocket or got misplaced. 'Cuz that's gotta be it,right? How do you lose something that's so important to you? Lol. I  kid. Unfortunately, some friendships come with 'expiration dates'...one too many calls went unanswered/unreturned, one too many apologies for unkind words spoken in yet another fit, a lie that just wasnt quite cleared up or some display of lack of loyalty. Maybe sometimes people 'grow' apart...I've never quite understood that concept but my take on it is that maybe some people find it easy to be your friend when you're somehow in a position less than them and I'm not talking literally...but observations have led me to realise that it is human nature to feel better when  you're in a position to help or counsel some one else or to always be able to count on your situation to be "not as bad as theirs". So, when you remove those factors some people possibly cant cope with the 'new' you...the less dependent you...the less 'needy' you...the more confident you...I'm no psychologist but I am passionate about the  motivations surrounding human behaviour and with a little reading and observation I arrive at a few hypotheses (yet to b proven).
All in all, they had their place, they did their time. Perhaps they are to thank for helping you to become a better you. Undoubtedly, they played their role well whilst the friendship was in full effect but be not too dismayed when it has come to a seemingly premature end. Fight tho, ask questions; if you're like me, you'll always want to find out why. There is always an answer to everything is another of my many philosophies so if you didnt ask you're robbing  yourself of the opportunity to discover same. Be sure to do some introspection and identify and  acknowledge your wrongs...then verbalise that of the other party if there are any. Be honest. Be true to youreself and the one you care about. Compromise but never bring youreself down in the interim, your feelings count too. If you survive the soul searching that this attempt at reconciliation has done then i daresay that that friendship will surely withstand countless more rough seas and happy shores.

"No man is an island, no man stands alone"...a line from a song we used to sing in primary school. The words still resonate now. I was never a fan of large groups of friends so I cherish my select choice of friends. Be thankful for yours. Be thankful for you.😊😘

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